Decision-Making In Divorce

Negotiating your own divorce settlement can seem like an impossible task during such an emotional time. You may feel like you need an advocate.

Everyone needs an advocate in divorce, be it a trusted friend or a competent professional. You may not realize just how capable you are of negotiating the terms of your divorce with your spouse. You are actually the best person to do it because only you know what is best for you and your family. Hiring a lawyer to do the negotiating for you can relieve you of some of the burden of making decisions, but this can leave you feeling like your divorce isn’t your own.

You may feel like the settlement is not fair because of this.

Team Up, Prepare, & Look For Guidance

It is possible to negotiate an outcome you are happy with on your own if you plan, prepare, and have the right attitude. Just as important, your spouse needs to be willing to put in an effort as well. If you and your spouse think you can manage to do that, you already possess the right attitude. All you need to do now is identify your priorities, understand what you need to include in your separation agreement, and hash out the details. If you need help doing this, consult with a divorce mediator. A mediator can provide the information you need about divorce in Massachusetts and can facilitate amicable and productive negotiations between you and your spouse.

I know from experience, negotiating your own divorce settlement can be empowering. It can help you avoid feeling victimized and overpowered by the divorce. It will also ensure you and your spouse can make all the decisions on your own. Spouses who do this are better able to move on from the divorce confidently and with the skills needed to successfully co-parent after the divorce. An added bonus is it is far more cost effective than traditional divorce litigation in the courtroom. You may need some coaching and guidance, but an experienced Massachusetts divorce mediator can provide that for you.

Do you have questions negotiating a settlement? If so, Mediation Advantage Services can help you. Experienced in divorce mediation, Law Office of Polly Tatum can help you and your spouse amicably negotiate a separation agreement.

Based in historic Worcester with a satellite office in Northboro, MA, our firm serves all cities and towns throughout Massachusetts and Worcester County including, Auburn, Paxton, Leicester, Sutton, Grafton, Shrewsbury, Westboro, Northboro, Southboro, Holden, Sterling, Princeton, Worcester, Charlton, Millbury, Dudley, Spencer, Brookfield, Sudbury, Natick, Framingham, Hopkinton, Milford, Blackstone, Leominster, Fitchburg, Acton, Jefferson, Barre, Oakham, Cambridge, Newton, Marlboro, Lancaster, Bolton, and Hudson.

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