It can be hard to see clearly and make effective decisions regarding your and your family’s future in the emotional climate of divorce. Unfortunately, this is one of the reasons why some people leave the divorce process feeling like they were taken advantage of or the outcome wasn’t fair.

Divorce mediation is all about making effective decisions. You and your spouse will be making all the important decisions in your divorce, and they will have lasting effects on your lives. While you may be tempted to hire attorneys to do all the heavy decision making for you, you should know that your attorney will still rely on you to express your concerns and needs. Mediating your divorce can be intimidating if you aren’t confident about your ability to make effective decisions. Luckily, divorce mediators are trained to help you make those decisions despite the stress you may be under.

Part of the role of a divorce mediator is to help you and your spouse make effective decisions that meet your needs. Because you are making the decisions with your spouse, you are in complete control. Making good decisions in mediation with your spouse is simply a matter of knowing what you want and having a skilled mediator help you and your spouse find solutions to your points of contest. You and your spouse may not want the same things.

This is not uncommon even in mediation. This is where an experienced mediator can really help out. A mediator can help you both see eye to eye on the most critical issues in your divorce.

The Separation Agreement you draft in mediation can be fairly structured. Review sample Agreements to get a feel for what decisions you and your spouse will have to make.

Becoming aware of what an Agreement can do is a good way to prepare to make the best decisions for you and your family.

If you have any concerns about your ability to make effective decisions during mediation, speak with an experienced Massachusetts divorce mediator about your case. Don’t think because you are not confident about your decision-making abilities or your legal knowledge you need to hire an attorney to decide for you. Mediation can be a safe arena to explore your options with your spouse so you can make the decisions that are right for you.

Do you have questions about how to have a successful mediation? If so, Mediation Advantage Services can help you. Experienced in complex divorce mediation, Law Office of Polly Tatum can help you and your spouse make effective decisions during mediation.

Based in historic Worcester with a satellite office in Northboro, MA, our firm serves all cities and towns throughout Massachusetts and Worcester County including, Auburn, Paxton, Leicester, Sutton, Grafton, Shrewsbury, Westboro, Northboro, Southboro, Holden, Sterling, Princeton, Worcester, Charlton, Millbury, Dudley, Spencer, Brookfield, Sudbury, Natick, Framingham, Hopkinton, Milford, Blackstone, Leominster, Fitchburg, Acton, Jefferson, Barre, Oakham, Cambridge, Newton, Marlboro, Lancaster, Bolton, and Hudson.

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